What is Mensline?
DVConnect Mensline is a free, confidential telephone crisis counselling, referral and support service for men living in Queensland. This service is available 9am until midnight, 7 days a week. In the last financial year, DVConnect’s Mensline received almost 15,000 phone calls and referrals. DVConnect’s Mensline Queensland offers counselling, referral and support for:
- Men who are experiencing domestic and family violence
- Men who are using violence in their relationships
Men experiencing domestic violence within their relationship
Domestic violence happens to all genders, males against females, males against males, as well as females against males. Although not as widely publicised, it happens. Domestic violence and abuse within intimate relationships can happen to anyone, regardless of their gender. It is control based. For example a man could experience this from his girlfriend, his boyfriend, his wife or his husband. This could take the form of being:
- Physically assaulted. This could be by being hit, scratched or slapped.
- Emotionally / psychological abused. Ie being yelled at, being ignored, receiving constant criticism, put-downs, and/or belittling remarks.
- Limiting your decision making. By limiting/eliminating the decisions you can make in relation to finances, purchases, lifestyle and living arrangements.
- Social isolation. Unreasonably restricting you from having access or any sort of content (socially/digitally/physically) from your family or friends.
- Dominating you. Displaying dominating behaviours designed to harm/frighten/control you. (ie threatening to harm you, your children, your pet or someone else).
Men using domestic violence in their relationship
Many men who are using domestic violence in their relationships are able to change their behaviour. When men choose to seek help and change their behaviour, they go on to have healthier and happier relationships, role modelling positive behaviours for their children.
Mensline Queensland recognises violence is a choice and actively work with men to:
- Acknowledge the courage it takes to ask for help to put an end to destructive behaviour
- Acknowledge that individuals are accountable for their own behaviour and are responsible for how they choose to react to stress factors
- Acknowledge and encourage men to change behaviour through support, referral and advocacy
- Crisis Counselling – The Mensline is supported by specialist male and some female counsellors. In 2017-18 Mensline provided support to 14,860 Queensland men.
- Court Support – The counsellors can also provide Court Assistance either in person or via the phone, and practical support through the lens of family safety and accountability. Mensline aims to highlight the impact of abuse on partners and families, and challenge people who use violence to change their behaviour.
Remember, men of quality respect women’s equality.