What is Mensline?
DVConnect Mensline is a free, confidential telephone counselling, referral and support, service for Queenslanders identifying as male, and who may be experiencing or using domestic and family violence. This service is available 9am until midnight, 7 days a week. In the last financial year, DVConnect’s Mensline received almost 15,000 phone calls and referrals.
DVConnect’s Mensline offers counselling, referral and support for:
- Men who are using violence in their relationships
- Men who are experiencing domestic and family violence
- Others seeking support for men using or experiencing domestic and family violence.
Men using domestic violence in their relationship
Many men who are using domestic and family violence in their relationships are able to change their behaviour. When men choose to seek help and change their behaviour, they go on to have healthier and happier relationships, role modelling positive behaviours for their children.
Mensline Queensland recognises violence is a choice and actively works with men to:
- Acknowledge the courage it takes to ask for help to put an end to destructive behaviour
- Acknowledge that individuals are accountable for their own behaviour and are responsible for how they choose to react to stress factors
- Acknowledge and encourage men to change behaviour through support, referral and advocacy.
Men experiencing domestic violence within their relationship
Domestic violence happens to all genders, males against females, males against males, as well as females against males. Although not as widely publicised, it does happens. Domestic violence and abuse within intimate relationships can happen to anyone, regardless of their gender. It is control and power based. For example a man could experience this from his girlfriend, his boyfriend, his wife or his husband.
No one person’s experience is the same or typical. There is no ‘typical’ experience within this situation. Domestic violence within intimate relationships can change over time. Rarely do relationships start with abuse and violence. It is commonly something that happens with time, and very rarely improves, unless the abuser is willing to put in the work required to change their behaviours.
Mensline Court Support
Mensline Court workers interview and engage with men who have been involved in domestic and family violence situation before they appear in court. Mensline works within five give domestic and family violence (DFV) courts in Beenleigh, Ipswich, Brisbane, Holland Park and Richlands. Mensline assists men (identified as either respondents or aggrieved) who are appearing at court where an application has been made for a DFV Protection Order, either by the Queensland Police Service or as a private application by an aggrieved or a victim, regardless of gender.
Without collusion with men workers will challenge alleged abusive behaviour robustly but non-judgementally, and assess whether men comprehend the affects of violence and abuse on their partners, their families, on themselves.
Mensline unequivocally supports Behaviour Change Programs with approved providers and approved intervention programs. For those men who are taking responsibility for their use of violence and abuse and are demonstrating a commitment to making unconditional agreements to change their abusive behaviour there is hope and the Mensline worker will work towards a court intervention for the man to be able to attend what men later sometimes call a life-changing program.
Mensline acknowledges and actively promotes the notion that when provided with clear and practical strategies to expand behavioural choice, men have the capacity for positive change and are often grateful for the chance to change behaviours.
Call Mensline, we can help.
Available 9am – midnight, 7 days.